All of these have been personally tested for your convenience.
1. Go to the gym
Even if it is only for twenty minutes. Listening to angry, motivational music and just running as fast as you can on the treadmill gives the illusion that you are achieving something and it helps let go of some of the bad feelings. Also, whilst your there, you can always get the treadmill closest to the weights section and enjoy the view. If you know what I mean.
2. Get your hair done
Sure it is going to cost you (mine was a mere $230). But for those few hours, you are just a girl (or guy) getting pampered, making polite chit chat to strangers whilst they massage your scalp and ask you about your job. Warning: don't go for a drastic change when you are upset. It's a cliche for a reason.
3. Spend some of those savings
Well now that your life has shifted direction, why not focus on yourself for the moment. Set yourself a budget that is a little crazy, and just diverse yourself in materialistic joy.
4. Watch movies in the bath
This seems very specific. But why not draw yourself a bubble bath. Put your laptop on a chair next to the bath and just soak up the positive aroma. Make sure you splash around a bit though. Because you know when you watch movies and the camera starts moving closer and closer to the bathroom door, and the persons dog or cat is clawing at the bottom of the door and you're just like "oh yep that persons dead in there". That happened to me today. But I wasn't dead.
5. Get dressed.
Sounds simple. But laying around in the same tshirt and undies for a week isn't going to make you feel better. And neither will the yeast infection you will contract. Put your hair up. Wash your face. Put on some clean clothes and deodorant and you will start to feel human again. I promise.
6. Talk about it
A saddened mind can be a very dangerous thing. If we are left with our own thoughts for too long, we just get sadder and sadder. Talking about what's upsetting you and what's on your mind can allow you to solve the issues or even to just give alternative reasons as to why things have happened. A different perspective can help. So here is where your girlfriends come in.
7. Write the person a letter
Do not give it to them though...that can just lead to problems. Because there are multiple things that you might want to say. You might want to ask them to give you another chance and take you back. You might want to tell them every wrong thing they have ever said or done to you. You might want to highlight all of the things you have done for them. Or your goal may just be to make them feel like shit. None of these are really healthy. So why not write the letter that you would want them to read. Read over it yourself a couple of times. Let it sink it. And then tear it up. I repeat. TEAR IT UP!!
8. Unfollow them on Facebook
There is this beautiful feature on Facebook now, that never used to exist and I wish it did, where you can just unfollow them. Which means that none of their posts will come up in your news feed. Therefore you do not have to harshly delete them like we used to have to do. The less reminders you have at this stage the better. But if you find yourself checking their page every 5 minutes, maybe deleting them is a good option for you, or even just having a rest from Facebook.
9. Clean your space
Go through your room. Sort through everything. Do you want/need it? No? Get rid of it. Fresh start. This is also a chance to find his stuff or old gifts etc to either give back or remove from everyday view. You may feel inspired to redecorate or even move. Either is now a possibility.
10. Allow yourself to grieve
Denying reality is the worst thing you can do. Don't hold onto thoughts of hope. Because probably only 5% of people will end up back together. (Do you like my made up statistic?) And like a good friend of mine said, if he does show up, well great, if not, you weren't thinking he would anyway. So allow at least one solid day of good old fashioned wallowing. Get into bed. Watch tv shows back to back. And allow yourself to cry. Here is a good chance to look at the good parts of what you had together and what you have learnt from that chapter of your life. After this day, you can focus on the next chapter.
BONUS: 11. Write a blog about it
So there you have it. The point in all this though is there are ways to feel better. And this one has really helped. So even if no one has read this. I have had a great chance to look at things a little clearer.
Thanks for all your support. xx
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